How To Cope With Loss

Everyone experiences loss at some point in his/her life. It is important to know how to cope healthily.

Healthy grieving takes time. People grieve the loss of a friend, family member, relationship, health, or a job.

Grief can mask itself in many forms such as depression, anger, or guilt.

The expression of these emotions and not bottling them up can be extremely important. It is healthy and healing to surround oneself with people who love and support you and try to help you continue with life.

Natalie Spears, senior, says, “When I was two, I got a Chihuahua for Christmas. I actually remember it pretty vividly. I named her Julee Jules Spears. She was the sweetest dog ever and ended up dying when I was 12.” Spears says she coped by talking about it to other people and not trying to suppress the feelings of despair since that only makes it worse. “The pain was the most difficult thing,” She says. “It’s always this heavy feeling on your chest, and you feel like you can’t breathe, and when you try to cry you feel like you’re being strangled. It sucks.”

Grief can last for years, depending on what kind of loss you go through. You can feel like you’ll never be happy again, but looking towards the future can be important. Work towards being happy and moving on. According to Helpguide.org, there is no “normal” timetable for grieving.

“My uncle died a couple months ago from throat cancer,” Taylor Dodd, junior, says. “I tried to cry at first, then blocked him out of my mind for a while. Now I think about him every day. The worst thing about grief is that it gives you this longing feeling of hopelessness and hurt.”

Sallie Chaney, junior, says, “I coped by crying and going through the grieving process. I also helped my friend with her loss which made me feel better. Grief sucks because being stuck in that loss is haunting. It really messes you up and leaves you kinda anguished.”

If someone you care about has experienced a loss, helping them through it can be vital. Empathize with them and don’t give false comfort. Saying things like, “You’ll get over it” or “They’re in a better place” isn’t actually helpful. Instead, simply listen to what they have to say. Be patient with them and suggest professional help if needed.

“I help others by listening to their issues,” Chaney says. “I validate their feelings to let them know they’re not alone. When it comes to coping, just let yourself go through the process of the grief and pain. Talk to loved ones and don’t shut people out because they are hurting, too. It helps to know you’re not alone.”

Dodd says, “Talk to someone close to you. There are always people here to listen. If you do not feel comfortable with talking to someone you know, text 741-741. It’s a crisis text line.”